Friday Women's Only Script & Readings

Journey to Hope Women’s Only Telemeeting Script

Friday 11 pm Pacific

As people join:

Welcome callers as you hear the entry chime

Ask who has the readings available and make a note of this so you can call on these individuals to read.

The Opening (adapted page 1 Green Book)

How It Works (adapted from AA Big Book pg.58-59 and first 2 paragraphs 60)

12 Steps (page 20-21 Green Book)

Abstinence Statement (page 14-15 Green Book)

Ottawa Promises (from Ottawa, Canada Hope and Recovery Group)

Introduction:  Welcome to, A Journey to Hope Women’s Only Telemeeting a meeting of Sex Addicts Anonymous. My name is ___________.

I am a sex addict and your Trusted Servant for this meeting. (pause for welcomes)

This is a closed, women’s only telemeeting for all those who have a desire to stop their compulsive sexual behaviors. There is no other requirement.

To help reduce line noise, please mute your phone with 4* when you are not talking.

Serenity Prayer:

Let’s begin the meeting with a moment of silence for those who are still suffering, followed by the Serenity Prayer. (Pause about 10 seconds) God,

grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.


All of the reading for this meeting can be obtained at

The readings have/have not all been assigned. ÂI will introduce each of you.

(Name)______, would you please read The Opening?

The Opening (taken from pg 1-2 Green Book): Our Program is based on the belief, confirmed by our experience, that a Power greater than ourselves

can accomplish for us what we could not do alone. By surrendering our addiction to a Higher Power, we receive the gift of recovery, one day at a time. 

In the fellowship of SAA, we discovered that we are not alone and that meeting regularly together to share experience, strength, and hope gives us the 

choice to live a new life. Membership is open to all who share a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior. There is no other requirement.

Our primary purpose is to stop our addictive sexual behavior and to help others recover from sexual addiction. We find a new way of living through the 

SAA program and carry our message to others seeking recovery. Sex Addicts Anonymous is a spiritual program based on the principles and traditions of 

Alcoholics Anonymous. However, we are not affiliated with AA or any other organization. Together we found hope and the care of a loving Higher Power. 

Our commitment is to help others recover from sexual addiction, just as we have been helped.

(Name)______, would you please read How It Works?

How It Works (adapted from AA Big Book pg.58, 59 and 2 paragraphs 60)
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves 

to this simple program. They cannot develop a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what

happened, and what we are like now. If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it, then you are ready to take certain steps.
At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But, we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless 

and thorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely.
Remember that we deal with sexual addiction cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help, it is too much for us. But there is one who has all power that one is God. May 

you find God now! Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked God’s protection and care with complete abandon.
Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery.

(Name)________would you please read the Twelve Steps?

The Twelve Steps of Sex Addicts Anonymous (pg 20,21 Green Book)

1. We admitted we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior  that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other sex addicts and to practice these principles in our lives.

Many of us exclaimed, What an order! I can’t go through with it. Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect 

adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines.  The principles we have set down are guides to progress. 

 We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.  

Our personal adventures before and after make clear three pertinent ideas:

  1. That we were sexually addicted and could not manage our lives.

  2. That probably no human power could have relieved our addiction.

  3. That God could and would if God were sought.

(Name)_______, would you please read the Abstinence Statement?

Abstinence Statement (taken from pg 14,15 Green Book)
Our goal when entering the SAA Program is abstinence from one or more specific sexual behaviors. But unlike programs for recovering alcoholics or drug addicts, 

Sex Addicts Anonymous does not have a universal definition of abstinence. Most of us have no desire to stop being sexual altogether. It is not sex in and of itself that 

causes us problems, but the addiction to certain sexual behaviors. In SAA we will be better able to determine what behavior is addictive and what is healthy.

However, the fellowship does not dictate to its members what is and isn’t addictive sexual behavior. Instead we have found that it is necessary for each member

to define his or her own abstinence.
Since different addicts suffer from different behaviors, and since our sexuality is experienced in so many different ways, it is necessary that SAA members define for

themselves, with the help of their sponsors or others in recovery, which of their sexual behaviors they consider to be acting out.
Our program acknowledges each individual’s dignity and right to choose his or her own concept of healthy sexuality. We have learned that our ideas of what is healthy 

and what is addictive evolve with experience. In time, we are able to define our individual abstinence with honesty, fairness and gentleness. This process is a valuable

exercise in our recovery. It requires us to carefully examine all of our sexual behaviors, decide which ones are healthy or addictive, and note those cases where we’re 

not sure. It is a way of taking stock of our sexuality that teaches us a lot about ourselves and our behaviors.

Thank you (NAME, NAME, NAME, NAME) for helping out with the readings.

General Introductions & Sobriety Birthdays:

It is now time for general introductions and sobriety birthdays. Sobriety is defined as time away from your inner circle. If you are comfortable doing so, please indicate

your first name, the state you are calling from, how you are feeling, and your sobriety anniversary. If you are a newcomer, feel free to identify yourself as such so we

can welcome you.

(NOTE : To organize introductions, consider using a geographical approach, i.e., start on the West Coast and move East or vice versa.)

I will go first.  My name is _______, sex addict from ______. I am feeling physically_______, emotionally, _______, and spiritually_______. I am grateful for another 

24 hours to add to my sobriety since_____________. (Wait for others before moving on.)

Welcome Everyone!


In this meeting we use SAA literature as well a variety of other recovery sources. The purpose is to guide the discussion around recovery.

(NOTE TO THE TRUSTED SERVANT: The following is a list of sources the trusted servant can choose readings from: The SAA Green Book, The AA Big Book, 

Hope and Recovery, The 12 and 12, Answers in the Heart, any SAA approved literature, any Patrick Carnes literature.)

We also welcome guest speakers on any recovery topic. If you would like to speak on a topic please arrange it with the trusted servant one week in advance.

Today the reading is ___________________from ____________. If you have the source and can help out with reading, I will begin and pass to the next reader.


It is now time to welcome anyone who arrived during the reading.  If you would like to introduce yourself, please identify yourself by first name and geographic

location and, if you would like to, share a sobriety anniversary with us.


The meeting is now open for discussion. You can share about the reading or how the Program is working in your life. To keep the meeting safe we have no cross talk,

nor do we make direct comments about another person’s share or give advice. Please avoid mentioning the name of a book, movie, or treatment center in your

share because this can be viewed as promotion. It is always safest to speak in I statements, as opposed to you statements. It is also appropriate to reference the reading.

We ask that any newcomer who would like to share be given the opportunity. Our focus is making you feel welcome and acknowledge the courage it took getting here.

Who would like to begin?

(About 5 minutes before the hour) Anonymity:

As a gentle reminder for all of us, anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions. What you heard today was spoken in confidence and should be treated 

as confidential. Please keep the things you heard here in the confines of your mind and always remember to place principles before personalities.

Ottawa Promises:

Our promises have been inspired by our own experiences of recovery and by messages of hope from our fellowship. (Name)_______ will you please read The

Ottowa Promises?

The Ottawa Promises (Ottawa, Canada Hope and Recovery Group)
Through a renewed relationship with our Higher Power, the healing force of recovery will take hold in our hearts. By giving ourselves over to our Higher Power 

and working our program, our lives will become manageable and we will be restored to sanity. We will receive the inner strength and support needed to face our

anxieties and fears, and to deal with the painful feelings that feed our addiction.
Relations with others will improve as we learn to respect our boundaries and allow others freedom to be themselves. Reaching out in trust and connecting with 

others will come easier, dispelling our sense of isolation and loneliness. Degrading fantasies and obsessive sexual thinking will diminish.
Relating to ourselves, self absorption will give way to self-discovery; secrecy to honesty; feelings of unworthiness to dignity; and shame to grace. A restored 

integrity will guide our behavior. We will feel more alive and regain a sense of happiness. We will hear ourselves laugh again and rediscover play. We will embrace 

change and will grow.
A spiritual awakening will free us from the tyranny of our addiction. An awareness of being guided by a Higher Power and supported by caring friends will sustain us.

Regret for the past and worry for the future will give way to living for today. We will open ourselves to the amazing possibilities of a life worth living.
Are these extravagant promises?
(All together)
We have seen them fulfilled.
They are ours, if we want them and work for them.

Thank you (Name)_________.

Seventh Tradition:

Now is the time for the 7th tradition, which states that every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. We have no dues or fees,

but our International Service Organization does have expenses. Contributions can be mailed to ISO at PO Box 70949 Houston TX, or by phone at 1-800-477-8191

Your donation will support the work of SAA meetings around the world.


Everyone is encouraged to get phone numbers of individuals whose shares they relate to. If you would like to receive a contact list consisting of members associated

with A Journey To Hope Telemeetings, please send an email to with your first name, last initial, state you are from, and at least one form of 

contact such as phone, email, or Skype ID; also indicate if you accept calls from women only, men only, or both.  If you do not have Internet access you can call Patsy 

@ 865-446-0558.  Or if you would like to obtain and be added to a list of women only contacts, please send an email to:

Now is the time to share your phone number with others if you choose to. Please share your name, your state, your number and what time zone you are in.


Now is the time for announcements. Are there any SAA related announcements? The first is that we ask you to share this number and passcode with women only.

Are there any SAA related announcements?

*On the last Friday of the month: We need a new trusted servant for the next calendar month. The trusted servant is someone willing to arrive a few minutes early 

and to assign the readings. Also, 30 days or more of sobriety is suggested. Is there anyone who would like to volunteer? Thank you_____________(name) for working

a step 12!

Closing Meeting:

In closing, please join me in the Serenity Prayer.


You are welcome to stay around for fellowship.

Now is a good time to ask questions and make comments, especially if you are a newcomer.

Thank you all for allowing me to be of service.

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